Self Esteem- The Art of Loving Yourself
Article by Karl Perera
Since our childhood, our parents and those older than us teach us to
love others and think of others before ourselves. But as we grow old, we
must realize that loving ourselves is as important as loving others. If
you don’t have love and respect for yourself, you can never achieve
your greatest potential. Respect for yourself stems from your
self-esteem, which, in turn, isdetrimental to your emotional,
intellectual and social growth.Lack of self-esteem gives birth to a
number of problems. The biggest and most damaging problem is lack of
confidence. If you don’t have self-respect, you start believing that
you’re not capable of achieving anything. As a result, you feel unworthy
of anything. Such thinking can not only destroy your career, but also
damage your daily life.In order to cure this problem, you must
understand the reasons behind your low self-esteem. We all are born with
the same mindset, so what causes some people to develop low self
esteem? Well, one of the biggest factors responsible for this is the
behavior of parents towards their child. If you are not taught to love
and respect yourself, you will grow up to either be completely
indifferent towards your self-respect or develop a very fragile ego.Too
much ambition can also cause low self-esteem. It is very important to
have ambition and dreams in life, but excess of everything is bad.
Over-ambition leads you to believe that you cannot fail. As a result,
even a small failure may lead to low self-esteem as you won’t be
equipped to handle it.To prevent low self esteem, you must understand
that it is good to love yourself. You can truly love others, only if you
have love for yourself in your heart. This is because; high self-esteem
makes you feel good and happy about yourself and you can only make
others happy, when you are happy.
There are various factors which make you feel bad about yourself and
hence, lower your self-esteem. Age is one of those factors. Old age
brings a number of problems with it, like bad health, lack of sources of
income, loneliness etc. and all these contribute to low self-esteem.
Failing in relationships also hampers your self esteem. A sudden end in
your relationship can leave you feeling rejected and lonely and your
self esteem may suffer. Whatever the cause of your low self-esteem, you
must remember that there is always a positive side to every situation.
Instead of feeling all the negative emotions, be positive and hopeful
because no matter how grim the situation is; no situation is permanent
and every problem has a solution.
Finally, always remember that God has given you this life to enjoy it
to the fullest. Don’t waste it by hating yourself and feeling negative
The author of this article has written several ebooks on self-esteem
and personal development. To download a copy of Karl Perera’s latest
Ebook “Self-Esteem Secrets” click here. Read how it has helped numerous
people love themselves and develop sky-high self-esteem and super
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The author of this article has written several ebooks on self-esteem and personal development.
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